Ask an Expert
January 14, 2014
By Katie Heaney
Dating can be disastrous. You spend hours finding the perfect outfit, getting the hair just right, going over conversation starters in your head, and perhaps visualizing just how gorgeous your kids will be with Mr. Might-Be-The-Right-Guy. And then he’s not. BuzzFeed writer, Katie Heaney, has just released her first book, a hilariously honest account of her dating life (or lack thereof) called Never Have I Ever (My Life So Far Without a Date). After making its way through plenty of the twenty-somethings in our office, this book was deemed a favourite. You’ll see yourself in Katie, or wish she was your best friend, or both. So we asked Katie to give us 5 Tips for a Successful Date. Enjoy!
1. You can totally still get out of it. Sometimes I’ll be talking to one of my friends or coworkers and she’ll say something about a date she has coming up, that night or that weekend, and the last thing out of her mouth will be “I really don’t want to go.” Usually I’ll ask her why not, and she’ll say “ugh, I don’t knoooowwww,” and I will grow increasingly anxious that someone is forcing her to go on dates. (I’m imagining a judge pounding a gavel and saying “You are hereby sentenced to five years of biweekly dates without parole.” The defendant, starting to cry, picks up her phone, and reactivates her OkCupid account.) I have a hard time understanding people who don’t want to go on dates but go on them anyway. You know you don’t have to go, right? If you made a date but you did it because you felt guilted by your family or your friends, or you felt like you owed someone something, or you saw a movie about a woman who panics about her biological clock and tells her friend “I’m nearly twenty-six!!!!!!!” and you were like, “what the hell, I’m twenty-NINE,” or you thought you were into this person but have since changed your mind, then you don’t actually have to go. It’s okay. Any reason is a fine one.